I’m reading “The War of Art” by Steven Pressfield right now and it is ALL ABOUT RESISTANCE. Pressfield writes how resistance is our greatest enemy, the thing that stands between the life we are living and the life we are meant to live. Although resistance is the greatest block to creativity, happiness, and purpose, it is also our greatest ally because it shows us EXACTLY what we need to do and where we need to go in order to live a life that is fulfilling and meaningful. We need to do the things we resist. The greater the resistance? The more magical the world that is being guarded.
I’ve always loved the image of a circle and within that circle are written the words “comfort zone”. On the same page, outside of the circle, is another, smaller circle labeled “magic”. Magic happens OUTSIDE of the comfort zone, people. Not in the safe, cozy space where it is easy (and also unfulfilling) to exist.
Life is magical and it takes daily work to experience it.
For example, the 10 Day Selfie Challenge. The moment I thought of this, I immediately thought “no way, I do NOT want to do it”. This led directly to my knowing that because I was resisting it SO much, it was exactly what I needed to do. Also, because of who I am and the work I am doing, I knew the moment I thought “nope, I don’t want to” was also the moment that I had committed to it 100%.
Another example, birthday parties! You guys, throwing parties is nerve wracking. At least it is for me. For my past two birthdays, I’ve had parties – big, outdoor parties full of volleyball and kickball and lots of food and lots of friends. And each time, I’ve doubted myself the whole time. “No one is going to show up. This isn’t going to be fun. You shouldn’t do it.” These are my thoughts from the moment the idea of a party is planted up until the moment I am having so much fun I’m not thinking anymore.
Why do I have these thoughts? Because throwing parties is an extremely vulnerable thing to do. It may seem like a little thing, and maybe for you it is, but for me it’s a lot.
As we’ve learned, vulnerability is a key component to a happy, wholehearted life and you probably won’t be surprised to learn that my twenty-nine and thirtieth birthdays were two of the best days I’ve lived through so far.
Walk into resistance and you can free yourself from anything. I resisted letting others read my writing for YEARS. Years and years. Even when I had a finished manuscript.
I mean, come on, what’s the point?
Since this blog began almost two weeks ago, the amount of clarity and vision and excitement I have felt for my life is INCREDIBLE. I know from personal experience how crippling it can be to let resistance run your life and I also know from personal experience how liberating and amazing it feels to walk into and through ANYTHING and EVERYTHING you feel resistance to.
If you aren’t already, I invite you to join me on this adventure. Choose one thing today, no matter how big or how small, that you feel resistance to. Acknowledge it, love it, and walk directly into it. You’ll never know what’s on the other side until you do.